I’m a female and I feel uncomfortable masturbating. What’s wrong?

Nothing! It’s okay! Like nearly everything in life, you should never be forced to do something you don’t feel comfortable doing, and this includes self-pleasure. If it’s not your thing, that’s absolutely fine!

With that said, if you WANT to masturbate and WANT to overcome feelings of discomfort, that’s wonderful, too. There are many ways that females have been made to feel that they have to hide their bodies or to feel ashamed of experiencing pleasure. What I would suggest is figuring out what motivates your discomfort and start slow. Remind yourself that there’s NOTHING wrong with masturbation (this doctor told you so) and, heck, maybe take a look at your private parts in the mirror? Get to know and love your entire body. Then take the next step. Feel for yourself which parts of your body experience pleasure when touched…and go from there. I hope you enjoy the journey, because it’s totally healthy.

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