How do I tell my parents I have something embarrassing happening with my body?
We’ve all been there — something super awkward happens to our body that deserves some medical attention. It might be a hemorrhoid, a lump in the vagina or a rash under a boobs. It could also be that you’re concerned about where you are in puberty (though you’re likely totally fine), if your inverted nipple is normal (it likely is) or want to know if the bumps on your scrotum are normal (they likely are). It’s hard enough to tell the doctor, but how are we supposed to tell our parents?!
I AM a doctor and not a communication specialist, but I do know that I want to see my patients whenever anything is bothering them. So here are a few ideas that might help you get to my office faster by opening up to your parents:
Write it on a piece of paper or in a text. Tell them what you’re worried about and ask for them to make an appointment for you.
Tell them you have something embarrassing happening and that you want to talk about it alone with a doctor!
Put the awkwardness on them and ask them about their own experience. For example, if you’re worried that you have a hemorrhoid, ask, “Hey, mom/dad/aunt/uncle/guardian. Have you ever had a hemorrhoid? What do they feel like?”
Suggest a trip to the doctor for another reason (like a yearly sports physical or HPV vaccine). Once you’re in the office, they’ll likely ask if you have other concerns…and there’s your chance!
