Let’s talk about this one. For starters, “breaking” (really, it’s stretching or tearing) the hymen is going to be different for everyone. You may have already sufficiently stretched it doing something when you were younger, you may not have much hymen tissue at all or you may have a lot of extra hymen tissue. It’s tough to say without a proper exam. Inserting a tampon or a finger will definitely allow the hymen to stretch to a functional degree (enough that it allows you to insert these things), but a penis may need further stretching.

So to answer your question, it depends how bold you wish to be. If you’re fine as you are with the ability to insert a tampon or a finger, you can leave things as they are! If you want to get things stretched before penetrative sex (and I am NOT telling you that it’s necessary, because it certainly isn’t) you have a couple of options. First, you could discuss with your doctor about the use of dilators. They come in a kit and are basically tiny little devices that you insert into your vagina sequentially (from smallest to largest) so that your hymen slowly stretches with time. The second thing you could do is invest in a dildo. Whoa. I know, but it’s the closest and safest thing to imitate a penis prior to penetrative sex. And you could use it (clean it first!). But those are my totally optional suggestions.