While it can seem fun and sexy in the moment, we already know that there are definite down-sides to sending nude photos. In the wrong hands, they can circulate beyond your control. Once you hit “send” the possibility is out there. The other MAJOR issue with sending nude photos is that, if you’re under 18, sending and receiving nude photos might be illegal. It depends where you live, but most places have some sort of law regarding nude images of people under the age of 17. So even if you took your own photo, sending it may be against the law.

When it comes to intimacy, bringing up illegal activity is not necessarily a turn-on. If you’re looking for a more gentle way to turn down the suggestion that you and your partner exchange nude photos, say that you much prefer in-person intimacy or that nudes really don’t do it for you. If they ask for nudes of you, just say no. An understanding partner should drop the subject. If they don’t, then maybe it’s not such a healthy relationship anyway.